The main internal argument porn addict get when thinking about quitting porn is about its alternatives, or about losing the pleasures porn gives.
Why quit porn? Why quit this joy? Many porn addicts ask these questions to themselves.
I have discussed about it when I am discussing dangers of porn addiction. This is the continuation of that discussion.
So as you and I know, a person watches porn to enjoy. What’s wrong with it?
Before I discuss about it, let me tell you three kinds of enjoyment.
Three kinds of joy
Enjoyment can be classified into three broad categories.
1) Joy of Sensual pleasure
2) Joy of Success
3) Joy of Sharing/Love
Joy of sensual pleasure
This is like eating ice cream, when we eat ice cream, our mouth get great sensations from the substances in the ice cream which bring us pleasure. So for that pleasure we eat ice creams again and again. We watch porn for the same reason; it gives us sensations and pleasure.
This is one kind of enjoyment life brings to us. We can enjoy like this.
What is wrong in this kind of enjoyment?
Answer is simple. Kids who eat lot of ice creams become obese and lose pocket money only for ice creams. People who watch porn lose a lot of time and energy on porn. So he’ll not have enough energy left to grow in life.
This is a kind of enjoyment everyone can have, only requirement is money or time. With money, anything can be purchased, and with time, any amount of TV or porn can be watched.
This is the basic level of joy.
Joy of success
This is the next level of joy.
Remember the moments when you know you passed the exams? Remember the moments when you got something after lot of hard work.
Success is a great enjoyment.
But as you and I know, this enjoyment comes after lot of hard-work/sufferings.
Only people who are willing to work hard gain this level of pleasure. Only people who work hard to climb by taking the pain on each step reach to the top and enjoy the pleasures of getting on top.
Many people do not access this enjoyment. Because Climbing is tough, descending is easy.
Joy of sharing/Love
This is the third level of enjoyment.
Many people do not even ‘understand’ this. Because they are struck at the first two levels, they don’t got a chance to experience the joy of fulfillment.
Sharing is joy. But only few people have access to it.
I’ll discuss this joy in another article, because this is a large topic.
In which level you belong?
The next question is the significant question.
Which kind of joy you experience?
If you choose to watch porn to enjoy, you belong to the people in the first level of enjoyment.
First level of enjoyment, which is sensual pleasures, is the main barrier one should overcome to LIVE LIFE IN ITS FULLEST.
Just see a dog, if the dog gets all the food it asks, how the shape of the dog will be?
The same is true with humans. Your capacity and competence to ‘LIVE LIFE’ will be greatly affected if you give lot of porn or sensual enjoyments to yourself.
So porn is not a good enjoyment at all. It’s basic. And staying in ‘basic’ is not growth.
Try to experience the second level of enjoyment, and then the third. Once you start experiencing the second level and third level of joys, you’ll realize the real worth of your life, and the true joy of living.
If you understand the other two joys, porn just become irrelevant to you.
So please, Think, understand, Grow.
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Pornography and Three Kinds of Joy
